My husband has decided to quit going to marriage counseling. Although those were not his exact words. . . What he did say was that he has scheduled a series of dental appointments to have some (cosmetic) work done on his teeth and those appointments happen to (coincidentally) conflict with our therapy appointments. (tired & heavy sigh) Another coincidence is that no other night seems to be convenient for him to either change his dental appointments or our therapy sessions. (another heavy sigh) So for the next 3 Mondays, he will be going to the dentist & I will be going to marriage counseling (alone). But it’s only 3 weeks you say – yes, that’s true, but I know my husband well enough to safely say once his dental work is done, there will be another excuse.
“Feelings are a warning signal telling us that we need to do something. If you are angry at someone for something they did, it is your responsibility to go and say you are angry & why.”
(Boundaries in Marriage – Townsend & Cloud)
I’m not sure if anger is the feeling I have over my husband’s attempt to escape from marriage counseling. Maybe this next quote expresses my feelings better:
“Disappointed desire is painful.” (Boundaries in Marriage – Townsend & Cloud)
Even though the progress in our counseling sessions has been going so slow, I really had put much hope in the fact that this was the one thing we hadn’t yet tried to fix our marriage and, if it didn’t work, quite possibly, nothing would. I am disappointed with my husband and hurting from that disappointment. So maybe that’s what I need to be responsible for telling him. And instead of shutting down as I usually do, I need to say, “I am disappointed and hurt that you have given up.” Praying for wisdom & grace in trying to communicate this with him.
Psalms 120:1 I took my troubles to the Lord, I cried out to Him and He answered my prayer.
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